I'll Be "Chattin in Manhattan" On Tuesday Night June 21st!

I'm going to be a guest on the Chattin In Manhattan radio talk show tomorrow night at 9PM (CST). The hosts are the ChickGab Chick, Kim Ward, and Garth Sandiford. Our topic of discussion is "Why Men Run" -- as in running from committment to a relationship and/or marriage.

From what I hear, dating in today's world isn't easy, so tomorrow's topic is very timely. It's true: I've been married for more than 30 years. But I'm not totally out of touch. I have friends who are single and I hear their stories. One Christian man in his 30s said that marriage is basically a sham and a way for "chicks" to get everything a man has worked so hard for all his life. He said 90% of the time, the courts side with the "chicks" in a divorce situation. This man is in a relationship now. Does it sound like he's totally committed to it (i.e. proposing marriage)?

Do you know a man who isn't willing to committ to a relationship? Join us for the live chat tomorrow night at 9 pm (CST). There's a toll free, call-in number on the site and it would be great to hear from all of you!

Meanwhile, I'm posting an article Kim wrote on the subject of dating.
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The Dating Game

By Kim Ward

Host of Chattin In Manhattan Radio Show

When should a girl throw up her hands and walk away from a relationship? How long is too long to wait for that proposal on one knee? My suggestion is simple.

Never keep time in the traditional sense; this can be both torturous and irrelevant. When dating, it is best to judge all things off emotion, not time lines. When the time is right in your mind, it might not be right in his. Do not set a deadline that only benefits your feelings. If it is marriage you seek, then follow this easy advice.

Take a trip away. Sometimes men need to see what they are missing, to understand how bad they want it. Go to Florida, Seattle, or any place at least six hours from your home base. Stay as long as you like, but for the record, most men can come to terms with missing a woman in only two days.

So, pack those bags and head to the beach.

Upon arriving home, you are sure to find a man that will have a new appreciation for you. Time alone will give your man a snap shot of life without you. The fear of that could bring him to his knees within a few months.

If that does not happen, I suggest proposing, to him. If he says yes, then a trip to the altar is all you will need. If he says no, pack your bags, but this time; get a one-way ticket with no return flight.

But, please be realistic. If you count how long you have been dating, using weeks instead of years, a trip to China will not help you. Things take time, but remember, the ride should always be as fun as the destination. So, don't rush!!

Find Kim online at:
http://www.chickgab.com/

Also at:
http://www.chattininmanhattan.com/

Who's Your Hero?

I’m beginning a Beth Moore Bible study in which she asks: Did you ever have a hero?

I had to think about the question for a while and realized that, no, I never had a hero. Not a real live hero. As a little girl, I adored Mighty Mouse --- “Here I come to save the day!"

But I never put my faith in any human being. I guess I learned early in life that humans failed me. They made me promises and didn’t deliver. No earthly being was ever worthy of my complete trust and dependence.

In high school when my peers were idolizing coaches, boyfriends, and girlfriends, my belief that humans are fallible became solidified in my mind. I saw my parents’ struggles in their roles and with each other. Girlfriends I trusted betrayed me. Boyfriends disappointed me. Teachers and coaches all discouraged me at some point or another. No heroes there.

Sad…or is it?

When I was confronted with the message of the gospel, God’s spirit told me that His Son, Jesus Christ is the Truth, the Way, and the Life. I could trust Him – and I did. But if I’d had a hero worship of another fallible human being, I might have been confused. Perhaps I wouldn’t have believed.

No one is perfect, as the old cliché goes. For this reason I write my main male characters – the “heroes” in my stories – with flaws. They aren’t perfect. Some aren’t even Christians in the beginning of my books. Captain Brian Sinclair comes to mind. He’s a commanding character in Uncertain Heart and the “hero” in Unexpected Love. But even as a believer, he makes mistakes. Big ones, such as believing the end justifies the means. He soon comes to realize deception is never an acceptable trait.

I think it’s important for my readers to connect with my characters, the heroes and the heroines, along with secondary characters, and recognize their humanness. In doing so, readers may discover the true Hero and Lover of our souls. The One who impacts all of our eternities, Jesus Christ.

So now I"m asking you -- who's your hero? Did you ever have one? Who is it and why?

AND THE WINNER IS....

Author, Pamela Meyers selected the winning number. Carmen7351 has won my 4-book series, Season of Redemption. Congrats! Carmen, please email me privately at: andrea@andreaboeshaar.com so I can collect your snail-mail address.


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CIVIL WAR WEEK BOOK GIVE-AWAY!

The first shots of America’s Civil War were fired in April of 1861 at Fort Sumter. To commemorate this war's 150th anniversary, the History Channel announced its "Civil War Week." The cable TV channel is airing shows like Lee vs. Grant, Gettysburg, and Civil War Technology. Check your local listing for dates and times.

Coinciding with this special event, (but not affiliated with it in any way) my publisher, Realms/Charisma House, and I are announcing a give-away of my 4-book, historical romance series, Seasons of Redemption. That's right. You could win ALL FOUR BOOKS.

My first novel, Unwilling Warrior, takes place during the Civil War and my main character, Ben McCabe, is a photographer, searching for his younger brother who went missing at First Manassas (or First Bull Run) – July 21, 1861.

This year, 2011, is a special time in America’s history when we can look back and learn about the Civil War. By educating ourselves we can ensure nothing ever divides our great country again.

Leave a comment and you will be entered into a drawing that will take place on Monday, June 6, 2011. Again, the winner will receive my entire 4-book, Seasons of Redemption series from Realms/Charisma House.